Some thoughts on the article: “How a brush with death shaped my long game”

autumn fallen leaves on gravestone

Like Eric Markowitz, for years I’ve been focused on “the long view” (as I’ve called it), or as he calls it “long-termism” (I do like his term). Basically, it means trying to make decisions that have a long-term, sustainable impact and escaping the tyranny of short-term (or, dare I call it, micro-term thinking). That mindset where the only thing one considers is maximizing profit (or enter your preferred KPI here) NOW, or perhaps out to the next earnings report. This thinking is so destructive when you look at the long game.

Mr. Markowitz wrote a piece last month titled “How a brush with death shaped my long game“. TLDR: he gets seriously sick, looking at a very high likelihood of death in the next few months. As you might expect, this causes one to rethink…a lot. (Fortunately, it has a happy ending…read it for the full details…it’s worth it).

He has lots of great ideas, but I particularly appreciate this one: “Playing the long game isn’t just about structure and process and systems that are designed to withstand the long-term: it’s about the joy and gratitude of getting to play the game in the first place.” I get fixated on the structure and processes and systems, and lose site of the joy.

Like him, I’ve had this long-term view in my mind, but have been really poor at living it. It’s far too easy for me to get wrapped up in short-term stresses, and lose track of the long-term goal. I appreciate the wake-up call (and am glad mine is this article and not the frightening series of events that Mr. Markowitz experienced).

I need to pull back and look bigger picture, focus on my long-term goals, and keep my short-term worries in perspective. Easier said than done, I know. Yet, I also know, it’s an effort that’s worth it. Like Thoreau, I want to ensure that “when I came to die, discover that I had not lived.” That’s what’s most important to me.

AA Milne quote featuring Winnie the Pooh: "One of the advantages of being disorganized is that one is always having surprising discoveries".

I adore, have always adored Winnie the Pooh and the work of AA Milne. But I can’t imagine anything more stressful than the surprises that come with being disorganized. Hence why I make significant effort to keep organized. I have my lists, notes, and calendars to keep me on task, to make sure nothing important slips.

That ethos helped me be rather successful as an executive/administrative assistant. And also explains why I have always liked that work. I’m lucky that way, I suppose.

Video: I didn’t have friends most of my life – being ‘unsocial’ and finding belonging

brown wooden cottage at the field during day

As an introvert, I find this video wonderful. She does a great job summarizing my thoughts and feelings, especially my childhood and young-adult-hood. I, too, took a long-time to discover my people, and the way I relate to the world.

I, too, grew up in a military family. I, too, found it challenging to make connections. Eventually, I figured out that I only needed a few, close friends. That I really don’t want my life to be frenetic, a blizzard of activity with tons of friends. It took years, YEARS to discover that, then come to terms with it. But I have, and I’m glad.

Some Words Of Wisdom

pensive grandmother with granddaughter having interesting conversation while cooking together in light modern kitchen

I came across this gem recently, and I think it’s very valuable advice to consider during this season of planning and resolutions.

For me, I see a reminder that we all have limits. So, in planning our lives, it’s critical to remember those limits. Some people have no qualms with taking until we’re empty husks. And many more very well-meaning folks simply won’t see the signs that you’re limits are getting hit without explicit notification.

So, my friends, take care of yourself. You are worth it.

Today’s Dad Joke

male statue decor

I just stumbled upon this one, which ties with one I posted a few days ago:

I cut my finger chopping cheese, but I think that I may have grater problems.

So, with that, I hope you’re having a lovely run-up to Christmas. I won’t remind you have many (few) shopping days there are left. If you aren’t done yet, I wish you the best of luck.

Yesterday was the Longest Night

photo of city under cloudy sky

Some random stats as I think about the apex of our night-life for my community just north of Seattle. Your mileage may vary.

  • Sunrise was at 7:55am
  • Sunset at 4:18 pm
  • Therefore we had 8.38 hours of sunlight
    • That’s 35% of the day with daylight
    • And, therefore 65% of the day was night
    • 15.62 hours of darkness!

Fortunately, slowly, slowly, the days will start lengthening. And another year begins.

Wishing You A Happy Halloween!

Years ago, I grew weary of all the tropes around Halloween. I mean, come on! How many times can you listen to Monster Mash? Well, as someone who values creativity and innovation, my tolerance is low for repetition. So, I created my own playlist.

Moving beyond the clichés Halloween.

So, I hope you enjoy it. Let me know what you think, and if there’s anything I should add.

Quote of the Day

Marcus Aurelius quote

I’ve long been familiar with Marcus Aurelius, though have never taken the deep dive into his work. However, this statement captures a deep truth for me.

This quote reminds me of a Steven Covey concept: Focusing on your Area of Influence. When we focus our efforts and energy on what we can impact, we become effective. Add that to “…you have power over your mind…”, and I see the power of focusing on our thoughts. Controlling our attitudes, I guess.